Scandal, Mojoworld and Mortal Kombat - Multiple Relationships Part 3

(Editor's Note - This was my first attempt at a 3 person interview.  My words (C) will be in normal type, Miles' (M) in bold, and Anthony's (A) in italics.  Also - I recommend a Snickers and a Cigarette.  This was interesting.  Parts 1 and 2 can be found here and here.)

C: so let's have at it - first off... you all are the first men I’ve talked to during "multiple relationships week"

M: I'll try to keep things as succinct as possible.

C: so I’ll ask - what’s your take on what the women have said?

M: Surely you'll need to extend it a bit? This can't be constrained to one week.

C: hahahahahhahhahaha you may be right

A: I think the women who have spoke have spoke a somewhat good game.

M: Well, the one chick that was staunch in her beliefs? I felt like MAYBE she gave herself just a tad bit more credit. The theme of all the interviews has been the same though: "To each his or her own."

A: They say what they THINK they want but if a nigga is honestly that true and real about what he wants 9/10 you not fucking with 'em.

M: Which I dig. We're only hearing one side of a multi-faceted "issue" though. Why aren't they okay with admitting they've been a side?

Probably because they don't know they've been a side, in some cases. 😳

C: I wonder what that rate is.  now, the first young lady I talked to, I couldn't really say.  the second, I'd say she hasn’t been because I’m familiar with her history, and the length of their relationship

M: Whatever the case, they gave good perspective, it was just skewed.

A: I respect both the ladies views but could they really say they'd be okay being the side piece if the guy told them he got a main.

C: so let's look at the other side - well, #2 certainly not #1, almost certainly not. again, limited knowledge as a matter of fact, I’ll rule #1 out too, knowing her family.

M: Swag her out then.

C: amen.

A: Preach.

C: now - as of Wednesday, no sides wanted to be interviewed.

why do you all think this is?

A: Because they don't want to be known as a side.

This week, the sides were somewhere with this guy...

  

M: Not to disparage them, but every woman has the capacity to be a side. It just has to be for the right dude.  Well, "LHH:ATL" and shows of that ilk.

C: now, they don't want ME to know, or THE WORLD to know? because confidentiality was clear

M: Follow me now: The shows make it seem like a lot of these women are stone cold idiots. I've known college educated, upwardly mobile women to be sides. Some (read: most) are even cool with it.

C: I’m familiar with a few people of that same ilk.

A: As am I.

M: In addition, it begs the gender-equality question. How come I'll get high fives and pounds, but a girl catches that scarlet letter?

C: well let's ask this then - can a man truly be a side?

M: That's why I try to live in a judge free zone. Society might tell you you're a hoe baby, but society doesn't dictate OUR relationship. Yes, they most certainly can.  I can, and have been.

A: Of course a man can be.

C: now, I'd ask, are you really a side without the capacity to want to elevate your status?

M: Here's the caveat though: I have some sociopathic tendencies, and very little regards for peoples' feelings. That said, I've never went buck wild and tried to get with a woman that had me as a side. In most instances, I would PREFER to be the side.

C: ok, I get that.

A: These married women out here who just want them to give them something there husband can't is known as a side...to me.

C: also makes sense.

A: Unless, the vaginal is that great most are going to make it as a tally mark and a fuck.

Others are going to take it as "THEIR" pussy after the first time.

C: #savagelife

M: That's an interesting question. The way I see it, you absolutely can, because I try to live in a black+white world. Dig this: You can still be a side dude (splackavellie for all you 80's babies) without wanting to elevate your status. That elevation is extra. That's for the women and the estrogenally-advanced men out there. The good reverend Dwayne "The Rock" Johnson once preached to the congregation "Know your role and shut your mouth." I fully adhere to that. What you have with your man is none of my business. Also, I don't care to make it my business. Also, I don't care about you, you're strictly for carnal pleasure.

Wise words from a decent man.

A: Yes!  I've been a product of the side piece. Her husband found his fix in fishing rather than his wife's vagina.

M: R&B music and television and romance novels are the reasons sides don't know their place. It's really similar to the caste systems of old. Stay in your lane. I'll call on you when necessary, or she'll call on me when necessary.  Don't get it twisted though, I'm not attacking R&B music. I loves it.

A: I was over there every weekend doing what he should've been. No feelings were ever involved.

This went on for seven months.

M: Also, I'm aware "estrogenally" is not a real word, but readers, you get what I mean. Basically, weak men.

C: wow.  all good stuff.  so, if I tell you all that a show like 'Scandal' is blurring the lines of right and wrong, you would say...

M: You're absolutely correct. So many women ride for Liv, but they're watching the show with rose-tinted lenses. We shan't forget that she is the president's side piece in that show. "So? She's so powerful! She gets things done!" You're right, but why can't she find her own man? Double edged sword! Ha ha.

A: It absolutely is! Her independence is what draws and attracts women.

M: Let me recant that first sentence. I don't think it's blurring the lines. I think it's a candid look at sides. They're not always weak. People from all walks of life can be victims of circumstance.

C: fair

A: The fact that she is having an affair with the president makes women think twice.  Kinda like it's okay.

C: so does a man's status determine how many women he's allowed to have? or how acceptable multiple women is?

M: There's still very clear sides of the coin, but now women and pussy men are forced to listen to the argument for the strong sides, and not the women who are constantly stepped on and don't stand up for themselves.  No, it does not. I'm nowhere near the president, and Barnum and Bailey were calling me about how well I juggle.

C: ha!

M: Deep down, I don't think those women believe it's acceptable, I just think it's shattering their previous views of sides, and the novelty hasn't worn off.

A: I believe so. I got have billions of dollars and go into the strip. But let a Kyle lee go in there the females would flock more to him because he's city known.

*could

M: Now that the season is over, you can ask a woman, and the responses might be more spread over the spectrum, but more will admit that she's "wrong" than would during the season.

C: in you all’s experience, what’s the reaction to a main discovering a side - both to their partner, and to the other woman.

A: It's never been good for me. I can tell the side she is not nor will be my main and she'll claim that's fine.  The moment I'm out with my main and the side happens to be present, oh, she's going to make herself known.

C: ouch.

A: They don't want to look like an ass being dissed

M: Shit. That's a tough spot! I don't mean to get racist...Wait, yes I do, but it's not designed to offend.  SOME women are cool with it after explanation. Most of those women are white women. Some Hispanic chicks will try to kill your dog and get your scholarships taken away. Ha ha. That's not from personal experience, and is hyperbole, but you know what I mean. The problem is a lot of niggas don't know how to massage a situation. I have this wild ability to know the exact right thing to say to people at the right time. It's almost uncanny. So while it's never "okay," I don't get anything wild happening.

Like he wrote, it's never been "good" for me, but most of the time, it's never been "bad" either.

C: so you're essentially longshot dating in Mojoworld.

M: Essentially.

C: (reminds self to use a pic of longshot in the post)

M: Make sure Mojo or Spiral is in the background.

My guess?  He's pointing to the jig.

 C: now, as far as men go, what's that interaction like.  you ever have to dap up a husband/ boyfriend in the flesh?

M: Yes, but luckily not one that knew. I try to avoid actually fiving them or giving dap though. That's trifling.

A: Yes, I have. He actually was a family friend.

M: For me, though, a lot of that is preempted by the virtue that I try not to knowingly fuck with a girl that's messing with someone I know. Also, I try not to know who her main is. Remember, I don't care about alladat. You want me to enter you, cool. I don't want to know your life.

C: hahahahahahahaha this is going to have... interesting responses.

so here's the question - why?  not why do men cheat, cuz um... not going there.

but why carry on multiple relationships?

M: 1) Sometimes it is fun
2) It is not as difficult as people would have you believe
3) Sometimes one makes up for deficiencies of another (that you have ALREADY tried to work on)
4) Financial gain (my personal favorite)

There are other reasons, but they're fringe reasons. Typically #3 is the reason, for most dudes at least.

A: I have the same responses as Miles.  Adding get your marks off. See who can do what.  Every women can do something better than another. My opinion. No matter how bad or ugly she is.

C: heavy.

A: No matter if she's the main or the side.

C: well yeah, the reactions to this well be... uh oh.  So, anything you all want to say in closing?  Any advice for the road?

A: No true closing advice.

C: noted.

M: If men and women would be clear from the jump, a lot of this wouldn't happen. I'm not condoning it, but what's okay for me doesn't have to be okay for the next man or woman.

Catch me at @afrikaantastic on Twitter. Ha ha.

A: No matter how clear one is the other will never feel the same.  Point blank.

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